Sunday, 4 August 2013
Anne Marie Stagg: Just do it!
Anne Marie Stagg: Just do it!: I find it really hard to ask for help... I am one of those people who will go the extra mile to help someone - it doesn't even have to ...
Just do it!
I find it really hard to ask for help...
I am one of those people who will go the extra mile to help someone - it doesn't even have to be someone I know; I'll help anyone if I can.
In the past that's meant that I have spent hours researching information on the internet or sorting through drawers and cupboards for the essentials of a pirate costume or home baking at midnight for a village event. Once I even intervened when a couple were having a loud and very aggressive domestic in the street; I put the woman in my car and drove her to the police station, waited for her and ended up taking her home and checking the house before she could go in.
It is who I am...
But when I need to ask for help, particularly now that I want to take my business to the next level, I agonise over speaking to people who know me for fear of being a nuisance or being rejected or made to feel a fool. I can find a million different excuses to avoid picking up the phone to make that call. I wonder why it is that, for me, it is easier to ask a stranger than to ask a member of my family or a friend.
So, I have decided that to "get on" I have to "get out there" and if my business is to grow then I am going to have to be a lot more proactive.
I am going to set myself some targets, plan my activity based on what I want to achieve and just do it. No more excuses!
I am one of those people who will go the extra mile to help someone - it doesn't even have to be someone I know; I'll help anyone if I can.
In the past that's meant that I have spent hours researching information on the internet or sorting through drawers and cupboards for the essentials of a pirate costume or home baking at midnight for a village event. Once I even intervened when a couple were having a loud and very aggressive domestic in the street; I put the woman in my car and drove her to the police station, waited for her and ended up taking her home and checking the house before she could go in.
It is who I am...
But when I need to ask for help, particularly now that I want to take my business to the next level, I agonise over speaking to people who know me for fear of being a nuisance or being rejected or made to feel a fool. I can find a million different excuses to avoid picking up the phone to make that call. I wonder why it is that, for me, it is easier to ask a stranger than to ask a member of my family or a friend.
So, I have decided that to "get on" I have to "get out there" and if my business is to grow then I am going to have to be a lot more proactive.
I am going to set myself some targets, plan my activity based on what I want to achieve and just do it. No more excuses!
Wednesday, 3 July 2013
The Power of Positive
Some people spend their whole life regretting what could have been; what should have been; what went wrong; what bad luck they had - when the only person they have to blame is actually themselves and a negative attitude.
There must be hundreds of wise sayings out there along the lines of "If you always do what you've always done then you'll get exactly the same results" and "If you want to be successful then surround yourself with successful people"... and they are so true, but sometimes knowing what you need to do and actually doing it can be pretty near impossible and it would be oh so easy to give up.
So, celebrate even the smallest success and actively work on positive language patterns. Keep a record of what you achieve, no matter how small, and be proud of it.
If no-one else is there to tell you how well you are doing then tell yourself: look at your reflection in the mirror each morning and say out loud what you have achieved. Speak in the positive eg Rather than saying "I want to be a successful writer by Christmas" use"I am a successful writer". Really mean what you say as you look directly in to your own eyes.
Avoid using "try" eg I am going to try to eat healthily"
If you "try", the implication is that you may not succeed.
In addition to the words you use it is also really important that you act as someone who is positive and successful.
SMILE! This instils an air of confidence in you and makes others feel more positive towards you
LISTEN! Listen to everything you are told and respond appropriately; this shows respect and sends positive vibes to the speaker making them more sympathetic to your cause.
LEARN! Do your research whether from role models, books or the internet. Ensure that you have the depth of knowledge that makes you stand out as an expert in your field.
ACT! Play a role, even if it is not yet who you are: If you want others to see you as a successful salesperson then dress, act and speak like a successful salesperson. Find a role model either amongst your colleagues, on TV or in the media and copy what they do, how they speak, the clothes they wear. Nowadays technology makes it so easy to find all of the information you need.
Make up your mind to be an enabler and give generously of your time without expecting anything in return; you will reap the rewards.
You can be anything that you want to be...
There must be hundreds of wise sayings out there along the lines of "If you always do what you've always done then you'll get exactly the same results" and "If you want to be successful then surround yourself with successful people"... and they are so true, but sometimes knowing what you need to do and actually doing it can be pretty near impossible and it would be oh so easy to give up.
So, celebrate even the smallest success and actively work on positive language patterns. Keep a record of what you achieve, no matter how small, and be proud of it.
If no-one else is there to tell you how well you are doing then tell yourself: look at your reflection in the mirror each morning and say out loud what you have achieved. Speak in the positive eg Rather than saying "I want to be a successful writer by Christmas" use"I am a successful writer". Really mean what you say as you look directly in to your own eyes.
Avoid using "try" eg I am going to try to eat healthily"
If you "try", the implication is that you may not succeed.
In addition to the words you use it is also really important that you act as someone who is positive and successful.
SMILE! This instils an air of confidence in you and makes others feel more positive towards you
LISTEN! Listen to everything you are told and respond appropriately; this shows respect and sends positive vibes to the speaker making them more sympathetic to your cause.
LEARN! Do your research whether from role models, books or the internet. Ensure that you have the depth of knowledge that makes you stand out as an expert in your field.
ACT! Play a role, even if it is not yet who you are: If you want others to see you as a successful salesperson then dress, act and speak like a successful salesperson. Find a role model either amongst your colleagues, on TV or in the media and copy what they do, how they speak, the clothes they wear. Nowadays technology makes it so easy to find all of the information you need.
Make up your mind to be an enabler and give generously of your time without expecting anything in return; you will reap the rewards.
You can be anything that you want to be...
Sunday, 23 June 2013
Frumptarn Guggenband
Yesterday I had the privilege of seeing this amazing group in action at the Beverley Folk Festival. The weather has not been kind to us for most of the weekend so many people were perhaps feeling a little damp and down, but anyone who saw this group in action on Saturday out by the Craft marquee just had to smile.
A Barnsley group, they were dressed in black and white cow-patterned clothing; their unique style of music featuring assorted wind instruments and drums ( plus the odd PE teacher's whistle) really got the crowd engaged and one or two started swaying to the rhythm and tapping their feet.
And then Frumptarn Guggenband upped their game...
The musicians started to dance wildly, whirling like dervishes, flailing their instruments in the air, just doing their own thing. The crowd became more enthusiastic and it was virtually impossible to avoid being involved, with much tapping of feet, swaying of hips and gyrating.
It seemed that no sooner had the group started than they finished and went off on their way to participate in the evening concert but they lifted the spirits of a lot of people. I look forward to seeing them perform again. True entertainers!
Wednesday, 19 June 2013
Control Room
One of the techniques which I regularly use in Hypnotherapy is the Control Room. It can be used successfully for a whole range of issues including weight loss, fears and phobias, insomnia etc and is particularly effective for dealing with panic attacks.
Under hypnosis I will ask the client to walk down a flight of steps and enter their own control room - the place where all of the systems controlling thoughts and feelings are housed. Everyone has their own version of this room so I encourage the client, still under hypnosis, to give feedback, initially using a nodding of the head and then supplying answers to my questions about the various controls within their room.
Controls take many guises but I have always found that the client is able to describe some sort of measure of activity whether they use dials, levers, gauges, colours or arrows etc
I ask the client to describe each control and where they are at on that range at that point.
Imagination is a powerful tool and it is up to the client how they make that control work more efficiently eg dust and polish; WD40 etc
When they are satisfied that the control is working efficiently I ask them to adjust it to a more effective level and having done this, they fix the control at the new point perhaps by wedging or gluing. They then remove all of the scale so that the level cannot move backwards and attach a signed and dated sticky label to the control ( as an electrician would following a PAT test).
In the course of a session we may work on 3or 4 controls and revisit these on the subsequent sessions.
The final element of the Control Room technique is for the client to fling open the windows of the room to blow away all of the cobwebs and as they leave the room they hit a boost button which gives a surge of energy through the room.
As the control room becomes more efficient in future sessions the boost button is then put on to an automatic timer so that it is no longer necessary to visit the room.
A very simple but effective technique.
Under hypnosis I will ask the client to walk down a flight of steps and enter their own control room - the place where all of the systems controlling thoughts and feelings are housed. Everyone has their own version of this room so I encourage the client, still under hypnosis, to give feedback, initially using a nodding of the head and then supplying answers to my questions about the various controls within their room.
Controls take many guises but I have always found that the client is able to describe some sort of measure of activity whether they use dials, levers, gauges, colours or arrows etc
I ask the client to describe each control and where they are at on that range at that point.
Imagination is a powerful tool and it is up to the client how they make that control work more efficiently eg dust and polish; WD40 etc
When they are satisfied that the control is working efficiently I ask them to adjust it to a more effective level and having done this, they fix the control at the new point perhaps by wedging or gluing. They then remove all of the scale so that the level cannot move backwards and attach a signed and dated sticky label to the control ( as an electrician would following a PAT test).
In the course of a session we may work on 3or 4 controls and revisit these on the subsequent sessions.
The final element of the Control Room technique is for the client to fling open the windows of the room to blow away all of the cobwebs and as they leave the room they hit a boost button which gives a surge of energy through the room.
As the control room becomes more efficient in future sessions the boost button is then put on to an automatic timer so that it is no longer necessary to visit the room.
A very simple but effective technique.
Monday, 17 June 2013
Forever Living Products Events
These are just some of the layouts of our fabulous products at the various events attended this year- everything from baby fairs to charity events and town and country.
Spreading the word about Forever Living Products.
Sunday, 16 June 2013
I'm back!
Sometime life just gets in the way! It has been months since I last posted on here - in fact I had almost forgotten my password.
So what's changed? Why now?
Well, I guess the main reason is that I have given up my full time job and having spent 6 weeks catching up on washing, cleaning, mending and gardening I can actually get on with the business in hand and start to build a client base.
My clinical hypnotherapy and reiki have plodded along steadily inspite of the heavy workload in my day job. Now I find that I can see clients during the daytime which is a huge advantage and if I want to take a family day, then I can...
Using clinical hypnotherapy I have had great sucess working with panic attacks and weight management; with reiki I recently participated in a staff pamper day which meant that I finally invested in a beautiful cream alulite therapy bed. I am now officially MOBILE!
I was thrilled to be part of the staff pamper day at a local hotel - just one day in a week of activities arranged to recognise staff commitment.
What a fantastic thing to do for your staff; what a clever way of building staff loyalty and positive atitude to work.
Come on employers, no matter how large or small your workforce, think about how a staff pamper day could positively impact on your staff. Get in touch with me through my website contact page at www.annestagghypnotherapy.co.uk.
Alternatively, of course, you could just arrange for a therapist to attend for a couple of hours a day/week and give sessions as a reward for staff r eaching a particular target.
Alongside this I am building my Forever Living Products business with a portfolio of events already completed in 2013 and many more to come, including our first ever Pop Up Shop in N Ferriby next Tuesday evening.
I have great plans for the future: I intend to build a team and move up the management structure in Forever Living Products, picking up the rewards along the way. I want to make reiki an accepted therapy which would be considered alongside massage and aromatherapy. I want to use my skills as a hypnotherapist to tackle the growing problem of obesity.
I have also decided that it is time to plug some of the gaps in my life - the first one will be to sign up for an anatomy and physiology course. When I was at school I had no careers advice whatsoever. I was reasonably able and decided to do Music and pick up a second modern foreign language at age 14 - unfortunately for me these subjects knocked out the science subjects which were in the option columns ( bizarre but true) so I did no science after Y9. Although I have no great desire to learn any of the other therapies at the moment I am currently unable to access them because a basic Science qualification is required, hence the reason for doing the Anatomy and Physiology.
So what's changed? Why now?
Well, I guess the main reason is that I have given up my full time job and having spent 6 weeks catching up on washing, cleaning, mending and gardening I can actually get on with the business in hand and start to build a client base.
My clinical hypnotherapy and reiki have plodded along steadily inspite of the heavy workload in my day job. Now I find that I can see clients during the daytime which is a huge advantage and if I want to take a family day, then I can...
Using clinical hypnotherapy I have had great sucess working with panic attacks and weight management; with reiki I recently participated in a staff pamper day which meant that I finally invested in a beautiful cream alulite therapy bed. I am now officially MOBILE!
I was thrilled to be part of the staff pamper day at a local hotel - just one day in a week of activities arranged to recognise staff commitment.
What a fantastic thing to do for your staff; what a clever way of building staff loyalty and positive atitude to work.
Come on employers, no matter how large or small your workforce, think about how a staff pamper day could positively impact on your staff. Get in touch with me through my website contact page at www.annestagghypnotherapy.co.uk.
Alternatively, of course, you could just arrange for a therapist to attend for a couple of hours a day/week and give sessions as a reward for staff r eaching a particular target.
Alongside this I am building my Forever Living Products business with a portfolio of events already completed in 2013 and many more to come, including our first ever Pop Up Shop in N Ferriby next Tuesday evening.
I have great plans for the future: I intend to build a team and move up the management structure in Forever Living Products, picking up the rewards along the way. I want to make reiki an accepted therapy which would be considered alongside massage and aromatherapy. I want to use my skills as a hypnotherapist to tackle the growing problem of obesity.
I have also decided that it is time to plug some of the gaps in my life - the first one will be to sign up for an anatomy and physiology course. When I was at school I had no careers advice whatsoever. I was reasonably able and decided to do Music and pick up a second modern foreign language at age 14 - unfortunately for me these subjects knocked out the science subjects which were in the option columns ( bizarre but true) so I did no science after Y9. Although I have no great desire to learn any of the other therapies at the moment I am currently unable to access them because a basic Science qualification is required, hence the reason for doing the Anatomy and Physiology.
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